Over at lunch yesterday, there was a comment about the stronger gf/wives. I readily admitted that I am the stronger 'half' at home. I used to think that being strong is not a good thing. As a girl, I should be quiet, demure in every aspect of my mannerism. I've known of strong women being labeled 'aggressive', 'demanding', 'domineering' and 'jezebellic' and honestly, I detest such labels as they are as sweeping as the labels sounds.
I am strong in my opinions, value systems, beliefs and I express them when I am 'triggered'. Hence I am not the nice, subservient person/woman/wife as commonly thought of, desired of. I'm not the "yes" person who agrees for the sake of harmony or preserving harmony although there are times when a matter does not call for my views and it is not so important then I will readily comply. However, when a matter is really of significance and importance to me, I will not hesitate to express myself even if it means rocking the boat that I am on as well.
The stronger side of me shouts the loudest and makes me who I am as perceived by others. That's ok, I accept myself for who I am and I am not asking anybody reading this to accept me for who I am. It's ok not to, I won't lose sleep over it.
I think for me, it's important to know when to step back and when to submit. Being someone who had opinions is not a sin, it's a sin when I become difficult, unreasonable and oppose for the sake of opposing. Opinionated to a point that I refuse to consider the viewpoints of others and evaluate my own conclusions. As a wife, I need to listen to what my husband has to say about certain matters. Sometimes even in the household, we have to agree to disagree and he'll make the final decision for the family. It's ok with me as I believe this is the 'order' for the home, if the principle of submission IS NOT observed, there'll certainly be disorder.
To be strong to have opinions about matters is not wrong. just know when to step back and submit.
I am strong in my opinions, value systems, beliefs and I express them when I am 'triggered'. Hence I am not the nice, subservient person/woman/wife as commonly thought of, desired of. I'm not the "yes" person who agrees for the sake of harmony or preserving harmony although there are times when a matter does not call for my views and it is not so important then I will readily comply. However, when a matter is really of significance and importance to me, I will not hesitate to express myself even if it means rocking the boat that I am on as well.
The stronger side of me shouts the loudest and makes me who I am as perceived by others. That's ok, I accept myself for who I am and I am not asking anybody reading this to accept me for who I am. It's ok not to, I won't lose sleep over it.
I think for me, it's important to know when to step back and when to submit. Being someone who had opinions is not a sin, it's a sin when I become difficult, unreasonable and oppose for the sake of opposing. Opinionated to a point that I refuse to consider the viewpoints of others and evaluate my own conclusions. As a wife, I need to listen to what my husband has to say about certain matters. Sometimes even in the household, we have to agree to disagree and he'll make the final decision for the family. It's ok with me as I believe this is the 'order' for the home, if the principle of submission IS NOT observed, there'll certainly be disorder.
To be strong to have opinions about matters is not wrong. just know when to step back and submit.
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there are expectations of what a wife should beeeeeeeeeee and i happen not to 'fit into a typical stereotype'