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Marriage is not just a piece of paper/contract/agreement...

Watched a talk show last night on channel U and they were debating whether marriage is a good way of keeping couples together.

2 camps. One obviously believes that marriage is an important institution for the community at large. The other do not think that marriage is THE institution for the community. Those who belonged to this line of opinion felt that marriage is only a paper, a contract and an agreement that does not prove anything. Love between two couples can carry on without this agreement.

This mindset stems from the perception that if one gets married, one can get divorce (easily) as well. Therefore, if the agreement can be so easily broken why have it in the first place. The escalating trend of divorce has discriminated the sacred act of marriage.

For people who feels that marriage is only a contract, I feel sorry for them. I believe that love for each other finally should bring us to a commitment to want to live lives together and share the good and bad. For better, for worse, it is together till the end. Unless and until we desire this of the relationship, we have not truly love each other. Marriage seals this commitment and this desire.

This final statement may sound bigotry but I'm gonna make anyway. Those who see marriage
only as a contract has no confidence in themselves and in their partners. They have no confidence in their love for one another that it will last forever, till death do them part.

Marriage is for life. Marriage is only for those who wants to keep loving each other, forever.

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r.u.t.h. said…
proud of ya that you think this way.
it's a wayward world we live in, anything goes now but as long as we bear the signature of our Maker, we will live above this world.
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